A Note About *Anons* & Why I Set Up This Blog

I visit a lot of pro-black woman and IR blogs; as a result, I was inspired to start "Black Girls Rock."

The purpose is to celebrate Black Women and all the variety of choices we have availabe to live our best lives. I want every Black Woman to have joy to the fullest, until it overflows. Whether a bw decides to experience variety in music, men, travel, politics or whatever...I'm all for it, if it improves her life.

With that said, I am not interested in cyber-debating the issues I post about; there are plenty of blogs around the net for that, if that is what you're seeking. I'm happy to share conversations with people who enjoy the blog and are like-minded.

Now about negative *Anons*, I think this blogger addressed it best here

I Like Variety !!

Black girls ...let your light shine !

Success Stories from The Asian Woman Files

Ok, the title of my post is in jest, but not by much. Another smart Asian woman is officially engaged to a high-profile man. James Gandolfini and Deborah Lin are heading down the aisle.

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We as bw have got to get smarter about how we seek out mates. You can't tell me that there wasn't ONE bw in the entertainment business who was in James Gandolfini's circle and couldn't have landed him if she gave it a shot. Come on now. Hello, Gabrielle Union, Kerry Washington, Tracey Edmonds ( I mean really Tracey, Eddie Murphy..uhmmm..no) --you get the picture. I suspect these ladies are in the "nothing but a bm camp" smh.

Some of us may look at James and see that he is a big guy without a "male model body" and he's *gasp* bald. My response would be "and."..lol. I happen to think the man is sexy. I love his big hands, the bedroom eyes and the walk...hotness to me. I could care less that he's chunky. I bet you Deborah Lin couldn't care less either....lol. I'm sure Ms. Lin had other criteria in mind when she accepted Jame's proposal.

Asian women are a lot smarter than us when it comes to making mating decisions based on what is best for them and their futures. I'm sure "pretty boy" with a cool "swagger" factored NO WHERE on that list. I'm also sure, Ms. Lin couldn't give two flying figs what anyone else thinks about her man's looks either. That's something we bw have GOT to let go of. We spend way too much time trying to "represent" when it comes to the man we choose. We often let "fine" substitute for QUALITY.

I challenge bw to go out to lunch alone at a local spot where the "business types" head for a bite to eat. Just sit there and observe everyone while you eat. Take note of the ww and aw who might be there meeting husbands or boyfriends for lunch. Do these women (in their committed relationships) all have "pretty boys" or do they have regular guys ? Really pay attention...I did this and quickly realized that I was (stupidly) discounting a lot of QUALITY men. smh at myself.

Free your mind and mate smarter in 2008.

"Kissing You"

A little something for the "Something New" girls.

Get it !

Lenny Kravitz - Black Velveteen

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The "Coco Factor"

Non-black women gracing the covers of black men’s “booty magazines” is what I have coined the “Coco Factor.” Coco of course is Nicole Austin, wife of Ice T. Why am I writing about Coco on a blog for rocking Black Girls you ask? Well, I am tired of visiting black gossip sites (it’s my guilty secret…lol) and reading black women getting down in the muck with black men about this woman. Hello, we are ROCKING BLACK GIRLS. We are MORE than a big butt and a smile. I refuse to participate in degrading Coco and calling her everything but a child of God all in the name of some sick competition; she IS married to Ice T and “performs” with him. That is enough of a burden for her right there.

Black women can we please be honest and admit that the only reason Coco (and her fellow non-black female cohorts with big booties) are working some of our nerves is because as some black man so eloquently put it *insert sarcasm here*, “A white girl with a black girl’s booty is a black girl’s worst nightmare.” LOL, that’s a sad statement right there. If some of us are sitting around thinking that a big booty is ALL we have to set us apart from white/non-black girls in order to hold on to black men….uhhmm…yeah…issues.

I challenge every Black Girl, from the very young to the grown and sexy, please FREE your mind of the “old” rules. Stop caring what black men find in vogue. WHO CARES what they think?! What matters more is how you see YOURSELF. This is 2008 and Black Girls have MANY options when it comes to dating and marriage. Therefore, if one man isn’t interested in the AWESOME Black Chica that is you…..just move it along…some other man SURE ‘nuff will be.

Let’s all let go of the “Coco Factor” TODAY and say a little prayer for Nicole.

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