Can R. Kelly Count on "His" Women ?

I read this article about Black women supporting R. Kelly in the Chicago Sun Times and I have to say I was both surprised by the reporter's frankness and disappointed that the story even existed. In spite of the theme of the article, the one positive thing that came out of it for me was the focus on protecting our young Black girls from predators instead of blaming them or labeling them as "fast."

Frankly, the tolerance for older men having sex with underage girls in segments of the black community is one reason too many children are born into impoverished circumstances.

Because adults fail to see these older men as sexual predators, they end up blaming the minor girls for the inappropriate sexual contact.

It should be as unacceptable in the black community for older men to have sex with these physically mature but emotionally immature females as it is for older men to marry underage girls at a polygamous compound.

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Along these same lines, The Black Snob has an amazing piece about how the culture of modern Hip Hop has essentially preyed on young Black women. In my estimation, this "entertainment" is every bit as damaging as what Mr. Kelly has been indicted for. (The language is a little rough in places....apologies to the easily offended)

A few years back I started making Andy Warhol homages to Lil Kim. Not because I liked Lil Kim or her music. Not because she was some epitome of manufactured beauty. But because of what she'd become, because of what Christopher Wallace, Notorious B.I.G., created her to be, the one thing she had to sell and sold greatly.

Lil Kim is a commodity like so many other things in the post-Shiny Suit Era of the Hip Hop Industry. A time when female MCs were really damaged girls on the come up willing to become glammed up, exalted strippers spitting rhymes they did not write. Flaunting game that was coached and coaxed. Male producers boosting them like hot cars. Flipping them like refurbished homes. They were ample, eager, hungry enough to get down on all fours and become profane provocateurs who could provide money based on "Pussy Power."

Pussy Power is not feminism. It is not womanism. It is about your worth being reduced to your private parts. Your parts being the only thing you can sell. Tits. Ass. Vagina. Marginal face with exemplary chassis. Girls getting bodied for talents they never possessed, but paraded about as the supreme because they fulfill male fantasy. This is not the same as an attractive woman with brains who uses her charm and guile and beauty to advance like an axiomatic Goddess. A success story who glides amongst us and gains the longing stares of men and women alike. This is the aspirational woman. The dream.

The likes of Lil Kim, Trina, Remy Ma and Foxy Brown fresh from prison are not.

It's amazing that any woman, girl, child could look at this coterie of cunts and find their dreams. That they could learn their sad origin tales of sexual abuse and abandonment leading them to paths of decadence and destruction and want to cosign to a testosterone fueled world where a credit card in the crack of an ass crudely demonstrates the vulgar truths.

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This is NOT a Good Look or Message

I try to find as many positive things as I can about Black Women and highlight them here, but sometimes you have to deal with the negative as well. I did not know this particular "saying" even existed, but go to the "urban dictionary" and there it is. I have to seriously question anyone wearing Tshirts or displaying signs with this message. My disturbance has nothing to do with politics and everything to do with the message it sends about the perceived value of women and girls. It doesn't matter to me that the face is that of a WW and it's used in a "political way." The people who use this language know that they can't take out their "rage" on WW and live to tell. It is Black women and girls who suffer the brunt of this rage and the people who are suppose to care and protect us are M.I.A.


I spent some of my "news" time this morning reading the latest over at WAOD and then ran across this "slogan" on another site soon after. I'm at a complete loss this morning and I have NO patience at all with Black folks who continue to watch and support evil foolishness to the detriment of Black women and our girls. Maybe I should make up signs that say "Join in Everybody, throw a Black Woman or Girl Under the Bus......The BC does, sooooo...All Aboard."

Halle : WHY Did You Do "Monster's Ball ?" - You've Put Folks in Therapy

Well, as I’ve said before, people are STILL discussing “Monster’s Ball” all these years later. More to the point, people are still *hating* on Halle because she dared to go where she’s never been before (well, on film)….lol.

As I perused my morning gossip sites, yes I’m shallow in the A.M. and need *light* reading before tackling *real* news..lol, I spotted a post about “Monster’s Ball” over at sandrarose.com. I guess the general consensus is that Halle didn’t deserve the Oscar for her performance in that particular movie and that she can’t really act her way out of a wet paper bag, etc.




Several months ago I was listening to a show on XM Radio prior to the Oscars and the conversation eventually circled back to Halle and her Oscar win. The fist black woman started off the conversation expressing her disgust that Hollywood *gave* Halle the Oscar for her degrading performance in “Monster’s Ball.” Black woman number 2 quickly jumped in and agreed, but then went a step further and brought up Denzel Washington’s win that same year for “Training Day” as equally offensive since Hollywood *gave* Denzel the lead Oscar for portraying a thugged-out, rogue cop. Ok, here is where I rolled my eyes: Black woman number 1, who started the whole discussion, cut-off Black woman number 2 and said that Denzel was different because he had already won a prior Oscar for his dignified role in “Glory.” SMH


Now I realize and respect that a lot of people could have been uncomfortable, disappointed, shocked, disgusted, etc. by *that scene* in “Monster’s Ball” or simply felt the movie was not to their tastes. I certainly don’t have a problem with people having different opinions. However, I can’t help but wonder if Halle, in *that scene*, begged “Ray-Ray” instead of Billy Bob Thornton’s character, to “make me feel good” and then (simulate) “riding him for all he’s worth,” would folks have felt the same amount of distaste for her and the film? I’m just asking…………

Hhhmmm....Haven't I Heard This Before ?

Folks have been sipping HARD on the BC poisoned punch; you know the kind in that big jug that they drag out for every church meeting and funeral. smh.

I'm so tired of other folks telling BW that we are "imagining" things. Everything is just beautiful in the BC----IF you're chugging down that punch.

Black Women At War ?

Therefore, if we want to do battle, even if the enemy is protected by high walls and deep moats, he cannot but do battle, because we attack what he must rescue.
Sun-Tzu “The Art of War”



Therefore, if we (BW) want to do battle, even if the enemy (Dangerous BM seeking to harm bw/children) is protected by high walls and deep moats (The “Black Community”), he cannot but do battle (Attack BW bloggers), because we (BW bloggers) attack what he (BM who don't get it) must rescue (Image of ALL BM regardless if they are friend or foe to BW/children).

- Edited by Pinky



You know, I really didn’t want to discuss BM on my blog because I wanted this to be “my place” to celebrate BW and all the wonderful options available to us. However, I’m beginning to realize that I too have to “get my hands dirty.”

I’m really tired of the pro-BW and pro-IR bloggers always catching hell for telling their truth and the truth of other BW. Immediately, detractors come out of the woodwork to call you a liar and demand stats to back up what you have to say. When someone speaks their truth, it is from their life experience and this requires no stats. Any intelligent person should be able to grasp that concept and not act as if that person’s experience relates to every other person on the planet. DUH!

I don’t know of any other “community” of people who are so willing to let their women and children perish all in the name of protecting the public image of “their” men. Don’t civilized people all over the world cast-out the men who dare commit atrocities against its women and children? Why does the “black community” find this concept so hard to follow?

BW bloggers are the devil because we dare to “pull back the curtain” and publicly renounce what everyone already knows anyway? This makes sense because………………….? Sexism, misogyny, intra-racism, classism, violence and hypocrisy all exist in the “black community.” Guess what, *gasp* those elements exist in EVERY community; but, my focus is NOT on “other communities" so stop dragging that tired argument of “well…but ‘they’ do such and such toooooooo.” DUH!

BW and children are under siege in their own communities by damaged BM in their midst. Period. If more BM who are NOT damaged would STAND THE HELL UP and RAGE against those that are, we could forever end this bullshit about “well, not allllllllllllllllll, BM are such and thus.” DUH! As long as good BM stay silent and/or make excuses for the BM doing damage to BW and children, the “damaged” label will likely chase ALL BM.

STAND THE F**K UP for what is right (the protection of BW and children) or shut the hell up about how the damaged label is destroying BM’s image as a whole. This is not rocket-science. Either you are for BW/children or you are against them. Period. “Hating” or “Bashing” BM has zero to do with this; it’s purely about actions (or lack thereof) having consequences.