Is "Zane" Really a Friend to Black Women ?

*Sigh* I have tried to ignore this "story" about this idiotic book every since it popped-up in my Google news alert days ago. However, the "story" continues. I do not want to plug this stupid book...at all. I'm just going to point out that Zane, the author of erotic books aimed at Black women, decided to endorse this mess although she denies "endorsing" it. Whatever.

I don't like Zane books..sorry just not a fan of them. But obviously by the success of the Zane series, a lot of women do read them. What I find distasteful is that Zane put her name on this book (presented by Zane) and thus, could lead her fans to buy it; a book that basically denigrates Black women all under the guise of finding a "good" Black man. Ugh.

Here is just a little gem from this masterpiece so you know what we're working with here:

Moore's slim treatise purports to explain how women should go about sex, relationships and marriage -- according to men. Here is his mission as a self-described reeducator: "I want to express my anger and frustration as a man with the women I feel are miseducated, misinformed, and ill-prepared about their responsibilities in getting and maintaining a relationship with a man of quality," he writes in the introduction. Moore, of course, considers himself just such a man. Read his book, ladies, and you can snag a catch just like him. Your responsibilities include cooking, staying skinny, wearing sexy things around the house and doing whatever your man tells you to do (because, Moore writes, "Here's a little secret, ladies: men never really ask for anything. They command. . . . And believe me, what you won't do, ten broads around the corner will.")

I think spike the cat over at feministing.com has the perfect response :

Every decade or so a book like this comes out directed at women. And someone of course has to put out something directed at black folks, 'cause you know, our shit is even more fucked up.

What you are witnessing is the dying grasp of male privilege.

And somehow an idea got started in the black community that women are supposed to compensate for the failures and mistreatment of black men. Yup, everything is our fault.

But I wonder if he addresses the soaring HIV rates in young black women, which according to the CDC is attributed primarily to heterosexual contact with black men? Sky high out-of-wedlock birth rates and absent fathers continues to be the norm, yet this guy decides to write a book about cleaning the house in lingerie?

Fucking.Incredible.

Oh and PS assholes, a recent study confirms what has been long suspected: that a woman's BMI actually has NO correlation with the number of partners she reports having. On the other hand, men with higher BMIs report fewer partners. Imagine that.
Posted by spike the cat | August 28, 2008 2:17 PM

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Don't Forget to Watch "The Closer" Tonight: NO...Not the TV show Michelle !

Michelle Obama will be speaking at the opening night of the Democratic convention and the anticipation is high. Please go here to read a wonderful article on Michelle; I think it's one of the best I've read about her so far.

A few choice excerpts I loved :

She is also a bold and beautiful Glamazon, rather than the wife next door like Laura Bush, which can be intimidating. She is at ease on the cover of high-fashion glossies and tabloid magazines. She will wear clothes from Gap one day and Alexander McQueen the next; the first time I met her, at a black-tie dinner in Washington, she was wearing a daring champagne silk bustier and had the look-at-me quality of Diana, Princess of Wales.

Behind the scenes, she made sure Obama left nothing to chance. It was Michelle who often called party VIPs and congressmen, assuring them they had a game plan for winning and always remembering to write thank-you notes afterwards.

Frasier Robinson, her father, was diagnosed at 30 with MS but carried on working with the aid of two walking sticks in increasing pain for 25 years. “He carried out his responsibilities to his family without a trace of self-pity, giving himself an extra hour every morning to get to work, struggling with every physical act from driving a car to buttoning his shirt, smiling and joking as he laboured . . . across a field to watch his son play, or across the living room to give his daughter a kiss,” Obama wrote admiringly in his memoir, The Audacity of Hope.

Obama, the son of a feckless father with eight children by four mothers, was partly drawn to Michelle because of her steady family background. When they met, she was his senior at a law firm in Chicago and was reluctant to date the handsome newcomer. The secretaries insisted he was cute, but “I figured they were just impressed with any black man in a suit”, she said.

In the end she was the one who closed the deal on their marriage. Obama didn’t feel the need to get hitched – “He was like, marriage, it doesn’t mean anything; it’s really how you feel,” she said – but she told him she was not the kind of girl to hang around. “You know that is just not who I am,” she said firmly.

Tales From the Cryptkeeper : The "Nothing But a BM Edition"

It was a tough day at the office, so THANK YOU Selena for this comedy gold. I don't think the author of this mess intended to provide me with lots of laughter and entertainment this afternoon, but he did...LOL.

VIDEOS NSFW (ADULT LANGUAGE)

Ladies do NOT get upset at anything this individual says. Obviously someone is protesting a bit too much in this video. Why else would someone spend the time to record and "broadcast" a message about women he cares nothing about ?

Can you spot the old faithful "keys" to keeping us in our crypts ?
1. "Good" Black women date/mate with Black men only.
2. Throw in a colorist comment about being too "black."
3. *Gasp* dare to read a book or speak correct English = "sellout."
4. Suggest that "all" Black women are "ghetto."
5. Try to down-play White men as "push-overs."
6. Suggest that Black women who want non-Black men are "gold-diggers."

I'm sure there are more, but I was laughing too hard to catch them all. The above video should really be entitled "Black Men Trying to Protect Their Own Interests." The truly sad thing about the video is that this guy was NOT helping Black men at all...LOL. He was NOT the one to try and carry the "nothing but a BM flag." I do thank him though for letting us know that Black Women ARE talking about dating/marrying non-Black Men. (hint....him ease-dropping on Black Women at the gym...HaaaHaaaa...shouldn't he be counting his reps or something..LOL)

My response to his video is perhaps *some* Black women want a little bit of THIS:



Calling all my "Sell out Black Women"....can I get an Amen...LOL.

Everybody's Got Their Something !

I'm so happy to see Aretha looking healthier. The Queen is rocking her shorts; check the cute legs, ankles and fly pedicure.

I'm sure we won't see this particular pic of Aretha on *some* of the "Black" entertainment sites as it seems they only like to show the pictures of  The Queen during her moments of struggle and not triumph.  SMH  







Picture jacked from Jezebel.

Before "Something New" there was "Love Song"

I loved, loved, loved this movie. *sigh* Monica was the biz.

I'm Loving You Anyway.....I Don't Care What "They" Say

Fear & Intimidation 101 : Can You Find The Subtle Messages ?

I don't usually discuss Black men on this blog as it's about Black women. However, I am going to post an email from a Black man that crossed my desk in response to an IR mixer.

I received this message about the new Interracial ...... group
for black women and non-black men. As a black man... I'm
clearly not the target audience for this one (lol).

But, a couple of thoughts struck me on this. If you do a
public meetup with this group, they will probably stand out
quite a bit, perhaps making people feel a little awkward. If
you go to a bar, and their are 25 black women and 25 (mostly)
white men, people not a part of the meetup will probably be
staring and wondering what the heck is going on (lol). Most
interracial dating you see is the opposite, with black men and
white women. So to see such a large interracial gathering, the
complete opposite of what you might typically see, may stand
out like a sore thumb.

My suggestion? Make it an interracial dating meetup, period.
If there were 25 black women, 25 (mostly) white men... and 25
black men and 25 (mostly) white women, it would not really
catch anyone's attention. It would be a comfortable, almost
normal setting. And if you are attracting the sort of warm,
friendly, genuine professionals I suspect you would seek, there
would be some mingling of people across all races (e.g. black
men talking to black women, and white men talking to white
women). But, everyone there would know why they really were
there, and the meetup would still accomplish it's function.

What do you think?

Let me just say that this is but one of the emails that have crossed my desk.  My first response was to just delete it and ignore it.  However, I think it's important (at least to me) to "document" the evidence of what Black women have to deal with when they seek to meet/date *other* men.  I am constantly annoyed by the folks who like to pretend that there are no barriers, even "subtle" ones, to keep Black women in their "place."  Some who read this email may not "see" the clear underlying intent, but it was not lost on me.